This week for the Pagan Blog Project is all about being a Heroine (can include hero here, but hey, I'm a woman so I go with heroine)
Heroines are courageous women who fight for what they believe. They are strong, independent and proud. They are confident and passionate. They are women I admire and look up to. I don't think that you must do something globally relevant to be a heroine. You can be a heroine to one person. Heroines don't do it for the notoriety or thank you's. They do it because it is the right thing to do.
The most important heroine in my life is....... ME! I think the most important person to be a Heroine for is yourself. It has taken me quite sometime to realize this point. I wasn't waiting around for a man to come "rescue" me or playing the damsel in distress or anything (yes I'm doing "that" analogy). Never been that type of girl. But I was waiting around for people to help me find the answers. Or tell me that I was right about something. I needed reassurance and support. And truthfully, I had many people doing those things for me, but I didn't believe them. I thought they were "just being nice". I couldn't trust them and yet felt I needed to hear it over and over. Truth is what I needed was inside of me the whole time (Thanks Glinda!!). I couldn't see that it didn't matter how many people told me, if I couldn't find it in myself then I would never be 'saved'.
I think that we are raised in a society where trusting our intuition is mocked and dismissed. This gets imprinted on the blueprint of our souls locking certain things away in the tower of our mind. We are also in a society where we are taught that helping others is of utmost importance, and that focusing on ourselves is selfish. So we begin to focus on helping others more than ourselves.
And when I say "we" I mean me, I can really only speak about my own blueprint.
Also, from a young age we are taught that if we wait long enough the perfect man will come rescue us from what ever our problem is. That we can not do it ourselves. And while I think that with each generation we are coming out of this cloud of delusion, many of us have had this put on our blueprint already. And.... many men are finding it difficult to navigate this new blueprint as their blueprints have them believing they are the "fixers" and "rescuers" and hero's for women. This teaching our children to help others is a wonderful lesson, but we must first make sure that they know how to be their own heroines and heros. And then when it comes time to help others, it is not a swoop in and save the day attitude, but a "let me help you help yourself".
I was so concerned with rescuing others and wanting to have all the right answers for people that I ended up leaving myself in the tower. I realized that the only right answers I have........ are for myself, I just didn't know I needed to ask the questions. But I finally did. And now my heroine has set me free.
So, now what.What happens next? Next I continue to be my own heroine. We never actually stop doing this for ourselves. We are a mischievous lot as humans and continue to lock ourselves away and have to break ourselves out a lot. So I remain a heroine, and a warioress (<---- more on her later).
Remember that while we are taught that heroines and hero's save the world....... how can you save the world if you can't save your self?
Thanks for reading!! I welcome your comments!